Really, I Understand But...

I need to get this out there in the open.

A couple of weeks ago - or was it months ago? - someone I hold dear to me told me, in confidence of course, that she has been seeing a colleague. I am not a judgmental person and even when she told me that the guy he's seeing has a steady girlfriend, I told her that, as long as she knows what she's doing, I'm not gonna pass judgment at their relationship.

It's not easy being the other woman

A couple of months ago, I wrote an entry about being the other woman. And I think I made it clear in the said entry that while I won't pass any judgment, I discourage it because I know someone is bound to get hurt in that kind of equation.

Going back to my friend being the other woman, I joked - but I was actually serious – that if the guy means well, she should ask him to ask permission from his girlfriend. Of course I knew he wouldn’t but I had to let her know that if she’s not careful, she’s gonna end up hurt and used.

You know, in hindsight, I should have told her to stop doing what she was doing then. But then again, she reminds me so much of myself and her stubbornness is only paralleled by mine, so I know even if I did, it would have just fallen on deaf ears.

While I understand why, I'm sorry but I can't condone it

As I am writing this, I think they’re still together. But I know, soon, shit will hit the fan and she would realize that it was a total mistake to have gotten involved in the first place. Believe you me, it’s takes mad bravery for a man to ask permission and an unbelievable, angelic woman to provide one.

Unfortunately for my friend, the dude he’s seeing and his girlfriend are neither. It truly pains me to know that there’s nothing positive in it for her but as a friend, while I don’t condone what she’s doing, all I can really do is be there for her when this whole thing ends with her being hurt.



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