The Beauties and the (Apparently Wealthy) Beasts

Here in Malaysia, when people see a beautiful woman with a not-so good-looking dude, the first thing that crosses their minds is that, either he’s rich or the son of someone rich; why is this so?

Y'all know what I'm talking about... How many times have you seen a gorgeous woman in the arms of an average-looking or worst, a plain butt ugly guy and thought, "he must be rich" or "this guy's dad must be some rich fella"?

Honestly, how many times have you had these thoughts? It really saddens me that for such a progressive nation like ours, majority of the people in this country can still think that just because some dude managed to win the heart and affection of a woman physically better looking than he is, it automatically means that he's wealthy.

Such behavior is a total insult to the couple! Could it be that, perhaps the guy's beauty lies within? Could it be that the dude is genuinely a kind-hearted soul? Could it be that, what lies within the dude's insides are what she is looking for? Could it be that, there's something in that dude that only she saw?

Don't you think we ought to give the couple the benefit of the doubt? When a couple is made up of two good-looking individuals, this is seen or perceived as perfectly understandable but when one is better looking than the other - specially if it's the woman who is - society automatically dictates our thoughts to think that he must be wealthy or the son of someone who is...

I'm sure majority of y'all have been in-love - at least once - in your lives; and how many of us have disregarded certain behavior or characteristics that we used to frown upon? For example: it is common knowledge and proper decorum to NOT burp or fart in public, no? Don't we get disgusted when we hear or smell someone who did it when we're within ear and nose shot? *LOL* But honestly, when we are in a relationship and in-love, don't we sometimes just let these 'disgusting' habits go by and laugh at them in the process?

My point is, our daily lives are so governed by certain levels of acceptable behaviors and yet, when we find ourselves in-love, we learn to tolerate the utterly disgusting behaviors that used to turn us off big time! It is with the same token that I think we should accord the ‘beauty and beast' type of couple the same tolerance and understanding, for we are not really sure what she saw in him...

Having said this, I won't deny the fact that there are lots of women who date and/or marry men only because of their wealth, or their father's wealth for that matter... Such couples exist in abundance around the country but hey, as long as they both get what they want, why should it be any of our concern? Girl gets the material things she covets, while the guy gets the bragging rights he so desperately wants; a perfect situation for both of them...

But how about those who are genuinely in-love? Those who, when we look from the outside, are perfect specimens of the "she-only-went-out-with-him-because-he's-rich" couples? Don't we need to give these couples the chance to prove us wrong? Or are we just too arrogant of a society to accept, lest they indeed prove us wrong?

This entry was inspired after over-hearing what a group of local celebrity girls were gossiping about. My friend and I were having a chat over coffee in Starbucks when we both couldn't help but overhear what was being said. I mean, we didn't really have to try hard to eavesdrop; they were sitted right next to us and were so boisterously loud in their gossip exchanges.

The topic of their gossip was a famous local celebrity - a TV presenter who could be seen on an info-tainment show broadcasted daily by one of the local channels and who has just recently wrapped up hosting a reality singing competition show. They went on and on about her: her previous relationships; gossiped about her looks and physical attributes; her "so-and-so" flings; her cold-hearted ability to dump her boyfriend when someone 'richer' comes into the picture; and that, what she had been driving lately is a gift by her current boyfriend, who is the son of 'so and so', the country's biggest and most successful car dealer...

At first, I just looked at my friend and gave him a shrug, suggesting that we shouldn't allow these gossip mongers to bother us. But after hours of continuous slandering of the poor girl, we couldn't stand it anymore and wanted to move to a different table, and as far as possible from them.

As we were standing up, my friend sarcastically blurted at them and said, "don't you have anything else to talk about? Or are all of you just plain jealous of her for having what she has?" I could see in the shock and disgust in their faces and even heard one of them said, "yucks! I'd rather be with my bf than with that ugly guy even if he has a rich dad..."

Luckily for me, I thought to myself, the way I was brought up did not allow my perception of life to be limited to judging things from what I see outside. If I were anything like those gossip queens, I would have been tempted to think the same thoughts but Alhamdulillah, and thanks to my beloved parents, I am not and would never be!

If truth be told, I know of the person they were talking about - but I do not know her personally... I have never even spoken to her nor have we acknowledged each other with a nod or a smile, but because we live in the same condominium as well as having our respective parking bays in the same vicinity, it is only unavoidable that I would see her from time to time.

Are there any truths to what they were gossiping about? I seriously doubt that and even if there are coincidences to their stories, I still refused to believe in the notion that she is only dating her current boyfriend because of his status... I mean, admittedly, she does drive a nice sports car now but I am still not sold on the idea that it was what she hoped to get when she started seeing this guy...

I am not saying that those gossip-mongers are definitely wrong; what I am questioning here is their blatant judgment of the girl; what if they were wrong? What if she bought the car with her own hard-earned money? After all, she has a steady income from her TV shows and product endorsements... What if the couple is really in-love? Or so what if he indeed gave her that car because he knows that she loves him for what he truly is and not for his status?

Does anyone of us actually know what goes on in a relationship? Hell no! As it is, we all have our own personal battles and problems to deal with; and if we think resorting to judging other people's relationship and conducts would make us feel better, the when we are wrong...

We are so wrong…

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