Deleting Undeserving Friends

It sounds like a hard task no?

Actually, it’s easy but you need to be resolute in phasing out people who don’t do anything that adds positivity to your life. You can’t be sentimental about such things.

You may have experienced and enjoyed good times together once upon a time but when these very people betrayed your trust and continue to haunt your existence, to a point where you can’t freely enjoy your current life, it’s time to take drastic measures and be strong in deleting them off your life.

We all have different definitions of friends. Some of us take it more seriously while others take it rather complacently. Personally, I only have a handful of people around me whom I consider to be friends and they are those, I know for a fact, who would be there for me when I need help. On the other hand, I know a lot of people; people I go out with, party with, play ball with, etc. But of the thousands, I could only count a handful that I consider as friends.

Do you know who your real friends are?

My Small Baby is similar in some way. She maintains close relationships with people whom she has known for ages and who, time and again, have always been there for her at times when she needed a support system to go through difficult times of her life.

How many of y’all have friends who have turned around and betrayed you?

I know someone who has a very loose definition of what friends mean. She considers everyone and I mean everyone whom she has met to be her friends. They could be 3rd degree friends, ex-boyfriends’ friends, 3rd degree friends of ex and current boyfriends; you know what I mean right?

The sad thing is, she is continuously being betrayed by the people whom she regards and believes to be her friends. She has been accused of many things, including being a bf and/or admirer-stealer! The thing is, it’s not even her fault for attracting those who are attracted to and/or are dating her friends but the fact remains, she is perceived to be the catalyst of all the dramas that go around in her friends’ lives.

Some friends are opportunists; why are you still with them?

I really think she has to change. She needs to be able to know who her real friends are and who are not. As it is, she’s living life cautiously, afraid and a little paranoid of the people around her.

I say, don’t be afraid and paranoid but have a stand and be strong with that decision. She can’t go on living her life afraid that the people she hangs out with will one day betray her. She has to find within herself the courage to not be sentimental about her past and erase those who are associated with it. There are certain aspects of her past that she needs to hold on to such as her circle of friends whom she knows would always be there for her but nothing more. People she met along the way who are now insignificant in her current life should and must go. And that’s that!

She reminds me so much of My Small Baby’s friend. Whenever he is in a relationship, he ceased to exist in this world, revolving instead his life on his partner’s. But time and again, he always ends up being hurt because, while he has stopped any form of communications with his friends from the past, he hasn’t deleted them off. Failing to completely erase these people from his life somehow catches up with him and for various reasons, it a;ways eats up into his current relationship and thus, making it difficult to move forward.

Why would you allow yourself to be a prisoner of your past?

And like this girl I know, her past is catching up with her and is endangering her current relationship because it is the boyfriend who is getting all these unwanted attention and gossips.

He does love her, a lot actually, but the unnecessary and unsolicited stories he has been getting and hearing lately is just too much to take. He does trust her and feel that she’s getting the wrong end of the bargain and being made to pay for one mistake she did in her past life. But on the other hand, what disappoints him the most is that albeit at face value she has deleted the ex off her life, she continues to be friends with and continues to entertain people she met through this ex, who is the very main reason for all her troubles. Why does she indeed do that eh? Because she thinks that these people are her real friends! Ha!

Recently, her current bf visited her and she introduced him to a friend of hers. The said friend is someone she knew through her ex and whom she remained to be closed with years down the road. Something happened while he was there and he made it known that he ain’t no pushover.

And when this friend of hers realized that her current bf is not like any other friend they know, who are all either scared or intimidated by the ex and his bunch of loser friends, the friend devised a plan to get her rattled up so that she could tell her current bf, hoping that he would do something about it and further teach the loser ex and his bunch of loser friends a lesson or two. And if he does just that, embarrassing the ex and his friends, she’ll get her revenge for what the loser ex did to her.

Walk away

See the diabolic manipulation? What’s worse is that this girl doesn’t even have an inkling as to what the real motives of her friend are! The thing is, the current bf somehow knew about this and couldn’t help but feel cheated; can’t say I blame him though. All he wanted was to make sure his girlfriend is not bothered anymore but he could only do so much; if his girlfriend continues to allow herself to be used and abused by the people around her, what could he do? Talk to her? He tried that already but she somehow refuses to listen and this is what frustrates the bf the most.

This is the second time he's been betrayed by the people close to his girlfriend and all he did was be kind enough to help them. I can’t blame the dude really, his girlfriend needs to stop being too trusting and recognize who her true friends are. If not, I’m sure that the guy will give up because he doesn’t need this shit in his life.

I think I have gone a bit off tangent from what I intended in this entry. Anyways, my point is, and just to reiterate once again, we have to find the inner strength to delete friends who are not truthful with us. I understand that it’s hard to do, especially when we have known such friends for a long time and have shared many a good times together but unless and until we can let go off them, we are bound to lose the current and future people in our lives.

Forget undeserving friends from your past

And deleting people from our past needs to be drastically done. There is no such thing as not contacting them anymore, stop going out with them or the likes. You need to be free of such people and start by burning everything – literally and metamorphically – things and memories you have of them. Get them off your phone list, your MSN or whatever it is you use to chat, your Facebook account, your everything. For only through a total phase out could one truly enjoy their current as well as future lives.

The deleting of undeserving friends start now. Don't wait a minute more and just get on it. It's better to lose these kinds of friends tham someone you love no?

Happy Birthday Wee Lee Boy!

Happy Birthday Bro!

I'm terribly sorry I couldn't be there :(

I know you were expecting me to be there and God knows how much I wanted to be there but circumstances just didn't allow me to be with you as you welcome your 31st.


I so wanted to be there for you, simialr to how you have always been there for me. In time, I will explain why I couldn't make it but right now, I just hope you would find it in your heart to forgive me for missing your big day.

I promise I'll make up for it one day soon.

Happy Birthday Wee Lee Boy!

God, Please Forgive Me!

God, Please Forgive Me!

I know they are underage and all but I can’t help have these thoughts! LOL



And I don't even like Miley Cyrus! She irritates the shit out of me whenever I see her on TV but still... I have always like Emma Watson though; she gives me the impression that behind all the glamor, she is just a regular chick with a kick-ass attitude.

Now don't y'all go and get things twisted. Again, I know they're jailbaits but as I've said, I hope God forgives me for these thoughts! LOL

When A Cover Is Better Than The Original

I was youtubing over the weekend and chanced upon this Daughtry cover of Lady Gaga's Poker Face song and it's way better than the original.

Don't you think so?

4th Of July Weekend

What a difference one year can make!

Last year, I blogged about missing 4th of July celebrations; the bar-b-q, the gathering, fireworks and the talking cock! This year, I got to sort of celebrate it with my colleagues. Granted it’s not as grand as the ones you see back in the States but hey, compared to last year, this is a major upgrade no?

Oh well.

I had fun and it’s the only thing that matters.

Yummy!

My colleague from Chile and his wife

The prince from Bangladesh

My boss and his daughter

The guy from NY and Miami :)

Vintage HOVA

Do you know why he is my all-time favorite?

Now you know.

RIP Michael Jackson

I know I am late. But it is intentional. And I have my reasons why.

But before I go to why I am doing my tribute belatedly, I want to talk about the man who revolutionized pop music and brought the art of dancing to new heights dancers could only emulate but never bettered.

I could never address him as MJ; that belongs to the greatest basketball of all time. But before MJ came into my life and inspired me to be the best I can be, it was Michael Jackson I looked up to.


I can’t remember owning an album before his “Thriller” in 1983. I was 11 and my uncle was the one who bought me that cassette tape. Of course I have heard of his songs and have tried to copy his dance moves by then but I distinctly remember that when I got home that day and my mom presented the gift from my uncle, I listened to it over and over again until I felt asleep.

Needless to say, I have always been a fan of the legendary man. Even through his countless antics and troubles, I have always maintained that he was, and still is, the greatest entertainer of our generation. If you have been to one of his concerts, you will understand what I’m trying to say.


I think I was one of those who discreetly supported his acquittal even if my gut told me that he was guilty. In my mind, and in my heart, Michael Jackson couldn’t be guilty; he just couldn’t be. And much to my relief, even if it contradicted with my most common sense, I was happy that he was found not guilty.

Such was the love and admiration I had for the man who made me dance. And if you know me enough, you know I can fucking dance! I may not be the greatest dancer around but y’all know that when I choose to put my groove on, y’all better clear the floor!

Rest In Peace Michael, you have truly served your millions of fans and more. You will forever be missed and remembered...


P.S.

I chose to pay tribute to the King of Pop belatedly because unlike most of ya’ll motherfuckers out there, you condemned the man when he was going through all his troubles. Honestly, I thought he was somewhat guilty but instead of crucify him like most people, I quietly and secretly hoped that he would be acquitted.

That’s why.

Penang Oh Penang

Penang is one place I’ve always had a love-hate relationship with. It is the place where love blossomed for me but it is also a place where I couldn’t see myself living and working in, having tried it twice before and failing miserably to adapt to Penang’s way of life.

It’s a great place to visit but to live there for months on end is just not for me. It’s too humid and the pace is just too fucking slow for my own liking. The drivers are the worst I have encountered in my life and while socially it’s aight, it can’t compare to KL where variety is the name of the game.

But despite all these, Penang is one place my Small Baby and I will forever cherish and I will leave it at that. Anyways, I was again opportune to visit Penang, this time with my colleagues for a weekend of market research and R&R.

Penang is still very much the same. Not that I expected anything to be majorly different. But as soon as I entered the lane to the Penang Bridge, the feeling of love-hate was there again. Even if I were to detach myself from the place, fate somehow always brings me back there.

Anyways, my colleagues and I had a great stay. I went up with Urfi – whom y’all probably know by now - Jesse, who is my Dunhill counterpart and who’s from the beautiful city of Miami and Tommi, one of our Art Directors who hails from Taiwan.

One of the advantages of Penang for me is that I know quite a number of people there. And getting around is not an issue at all as there will always be peeps who are willing to drive us around, should we need any driving.

We also bumped into our colleagues from G2 KL who were up there to celebrate someone’s birthday and together, we rocked Penang nightlife! Haha Seriously, when you have a bunch of KLites partying in a place like Penang, the contrast is just visible; the way we and the locals party is just completely different and the difference is blatantly obvious.

All in all, it was a great weekend. I am not gonna talk about going up to Alor Setar as there’s nothing much to talk about, really.

Let Me Introduce Y'all To...

I reckon since I meet people all the time, either through work or personal space, I will start a thread to introduce to y’all the interesting peeps I meet along the way; individuals who I have found to be 'interesting' - take note of the inverted commas :) - and whom I think y'all will find the same.

Let Me Introduce Y'all To the Bangladeshi Royal, Urfi Ahmad.

Signing a an autograph for a lucky fan!

I currently work with Urfi and he is generally a quiet dude but he’s a gifted human; he’s an intellectual and a musician rolled into one. He normally operates silently and inconspicuously but don’t mistaken his laid back and I-smile-all-the-time attitude for being a pushover, he is the exact opposite.

Urfi maneuvers like a black panther; he patiently waits to make his move and once he does, he savagely destroys his prey. If ever you get the chance to meet this Bangladeshi Royalty, and depending on how he views you, my advice is to be prepared.

He’s a great guy though, all this considering. He is generally harmless but make no mistake about it, he can eat you alive physically and intellectually.

Ladies, consider yourselves warned… Or lucky! LOL